gardenersdelite
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| Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for people to make promises and commitments when they have no expectation of following through. This is often a result of their own insecurities and not feeling comfortable dealing with the possible results of being open and honest with people. A way to limit this from happening is to seek out what the other person is looking for or hopes to experience from the encounter. The more specific the response, the more involved and interested the person is. When they respond with vague generalities, they may just be responding out of obligation with no interest in following through or not be mature enough to handle any depth in a relationship. Focusing on what you bring to the relationship rather than what you can get out of it will raise your chances of getting something quality. Present the best package you can. Don't say "if you loved me you'd accept me for who I am." That is a slap in the face of the other person, saying "this is all you deserve." Never seek more than you bring to the relationship. If you want more, work on improving yourself first. Don't assume that the other person is the "dumb one" or "a loser." That person may realize that compatibility just doesn't exist here and doesn't want to put you down by focusing on how you are deficient from the perspective of their objective. Because people are different or seek something different, it doesn't mean that they are wrong or bad people. If you keep getting rejection, rethink your approach or the type of person you are seeking. Opposites may attract, but they rarely make for quality partners. Be open and honest up front. People resent the bait and switch tactic. Realize that not sharing something you know would be important for the other person to know is just as bad as giving them inaccurate information. Good luck finding that special connection. |
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